Sunday, July 1, 2012

just pissed.



have you ever thought of EVERY cuss word of your life and screamed them within your head and soul ( with some sneaking out )??!!  what a fucking, brutal end of June and beginning of July.  my adorable SIL,... whom might have a slice of sunshine layered onto her brown-sugared soul, lost her first love Jason this past week to a filthy, selfish drunk driver.

he was a part of our family for 5 years and bloody, sweet at it.  i'm talking about the kind of person who brings, a brilliant breath of fresh air that opens the door when he arrives.  A complete soul.  I can only hope that we all remember his beauty and honor him and his time here, while we remain, still learning.




my heart breaks for her.  i can only hope she'll be able to embrace the complete love he brought to her life and not the heartache that was given when he had to departed it.


she's such a sweet, beautiful soul and i can only pray this won't dim her vision of life.
  
UUuuggg...  how can you ever help in this type of tragedy??..   she's only 24 and she's experienced the hurt that an elder woman would cringe  from...

i am just sick.

58 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry to hear that news. It's horrible that there's really nothing that can be said to make people feel better in a situation like this, but my thoughts are with you and your entire family.

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  2. I am so sorry, I, and many others, have experienced this cruel senseless loss. Until killing by DUI is treated as murder and DUI is treated equally seriously nothing will change.I could rant for ages but nothing helps this situation but time. The pain never leaves it just damps down. My thoughts are with you and yours.

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  3. oh, I am so sorry. What a tragedy. Sending you and your family love and strength.

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  4. I want to say something, but there is just nothing to say at a desperately sad time like this - except sorry. My heart goes out to you all. xxx

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  5. I don't know what to say to even try to lift the pain you guys must be going through right now but you and your family are in my thoughts.

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  6. I'm so sorry for your SIL, you and your entire family. What a tragedy.

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  7. Horrible. I am so sorry to hear this and am thinking about you, your SIL, and your whole family.

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  8. What a terrible tragedy. I'm so sorry.

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  9. So sorry for your loss. What a tragedy!

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  10. What sad and tragic news. My heart goes out to you, your SIL and family that are dealing with this senseless loss.

    ((hugs))

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  11. I'm pissed too. Sending my thoughts of comfort to everyone.

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  12. saying a special prayer for your family and his... praying that God will comfort and give peace to each of you during this difficult time...

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  13. My thoughts and prayers to all....as a strong beautiful woman, she will find her own inspiration from this, a way to carry on his beautiful shining soul....a lesson too soon learned, tho, I agree....

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  14. So terribly sorry to hear this news. Much love and prayers with your family. <3

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  15. So terribly sorry to hear this news. Much love and many prayers to your family during this time. <3

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  16. This is SO heart-breaking, and I am so sorry for you all. There simple are no words.....

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  17. Heather, I am so sorry for your family's horrible and senseless loss. There are not words for how irate I feel about drunk drivers. I can not imagine the grief and pain right now. Sending my love and prayers for all of you.

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  18. It is always brutal when tragic things happen to the very best people. It seems woefully inadequate to say this but, my deepest sympathy to your family. Sending positive, healing energy your way.

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  19. Oh Heather that is heart-breaking!Drink driving and its consequences can be so devastating. My heart goes out to you all at this painful time xx

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  20. Sorry for your families loss- My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

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  21. Ugh. Tears and a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. Prayers for your SIL and all the family and friends that boy had to leave behind.

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  22. I am so sorry for your SIL and the rest of your family for this tragic loss. My prayers are with your family.

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  23. I am so sorry for your family's loss! Prayers to her and your family xoxoxo

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  24. I am amazed that adults still get behind the wheel while drinking. Last week, 5 of my 16 yr old son's friends were riding in a jeep. It flipped. The driver bruised his brian and had to be put in an induced coma. 2 kids got a broken pelvis. 2 came out OK. My son didn't want to believe it, but a couple days later it came out they were drinking. It could have been so much more tragic. They were very lucky. The 17 yr old driver will probably loose his license as he should. My son gets his license in October. I hope he sees this as an important lesson. And I thank God he wasn't one of the teenagers in that jeep. I am sorry for you loss. It is all the more tragic when it could have been avoided.

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  25. Fuck is right! I lost a soul mate kind of love to an accident when I was 19. It was so numbing and unreal but all these years later I still think of him and have felt like he's been with me somehow. I know my Mom was there for me and that's what's most important. I don't think there was anything special she said or did but I remember her holding me. That kind of support is most important sometimes there's not much you can say.

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  26. I am so saddened to hear this news. Thinking of you and your family.

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  27. I am just so sorry for your family. Stay strong and love each other.

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  28. I don't really know what to say in the face of such a heart breaking loss except I'm so so sorry.

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  29. Heather I am so sorry for your loss, hope your sister manages to come through this tragedy. I'm sure with your support she will find the courage. Big Hugs - Justine xxx

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  30. I'm so sorry. Prayers are sent you and you family's way.

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  31. My heart breaks for your SIL. May your family find healing and it this be the tragedy that finally gets through to people so that no one else has to experience the utter agony of losing someone that didn't need to be lost.

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  32. My sincerest condolences to your family. That's just tragic! I can't even imagine.

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  33. Such sad news Heather. I'm really sorry to hear it. :-(
    My youngest sister was killed in an accident 11 years ago. She had turned 20 only a few days before it happened. I remember feeling like nothing was ever going to be okay again and I was so shocked that people were going about their daily business not knowing that this awful thing had happened - really SHOCKED.
    At the moment it probably feels like you cant possibly deal with it, but you will - you will all discover that you are a lot tougher than you ever thought you could be. There are no magic words, but being there for your sil will help her. It might feel like you're not doing much, but knowing that people care does somehow help.
    Big hugs to you all. xxxx

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  34. What a Big Loss at such a young age. I'm saddest when someone dies so suddenly and with basically no reason. Life just isn't fair some times. Prayers for your family.

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  35. I'm so sorry for your loss and the tragedy. One day, life is normal and the next it no longer is. Not much but family and friends matter during these darker days but I hope your SIL and family can find comfort in the good memories, and that by taking a step at a time can start to heal.

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  36. praying for her now. so sorry for your loss.

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  37. I am so very sorry to hear of your family's heartache. Please know that there are many praying for comfort and peace for all of you.

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  38. there are no words to say that will really ease pain or heal a heart in this time of sadness. Please know you all are in my prayers for healing your hearts and souls.

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  39. Prayers for her, his family & you and yours. There are no words for something so senseless.

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  40. Sorry is such an inadequate word in this tragic situation. May all of your family find themselves surrounded by the love and support of others as you all cope with such a terrible loss.
    With sincere condolences,
    Anna

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  41. Nothing seems like enough to say...just know We thinking of you all and especially your sil, such a tragedy anytime but seems especially so as life is just opening up.

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  42. I am so sorry. It sounds like that driver's selfish and dangerous choice has robbed the world of a very special young man and all that he could have done in it. My thoughts and prayers are with you and both families in your grief.

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  43. I'm so sorry to hear this Heather! Thinking of your family and especially your SIL... xoxo

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  44. I am just so sad and so sorry. My heart aches for you and your family. My the love you all felt carry surround you forever.

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  45. What a terrible thing! There are NO excuses driving drunk! I'm sorry that your SIL, Jason's family and your's are having to go through this hard time. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers

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  46. Oh, I have no words. That is just too awful a thing to happen. I'm thinking of you, your SIL and the rest of your family x

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  47. I'm very sorry. May you all find comfort in each other and the strength to meet each new day together. I am so very sorry.

    Hopefully your message resonates with others when they decide to get behind the wheel...or not.

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  48. Oh Heather,
    I was so very sorry to read this. My heart aches for you. It made me want to send your post to every single soul I know that drives and then gets behind the wheel of their car. Every one.

    My heart goes out to you and your family.

    I send my strengthening thoughts to you, girlfriend.
    Ter'e (your book buddy)

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  49. I am so so so sorry for your loss. Your poor SIL. This is beyond tragic and heartbreaking. Time is the only thing that helps the pain. We lost my dad in 09 on the day my sister had her first baby- by a 3x drunk driver in Austin,TX, he had just gotten in to town and was on his way to the hotel from the airport. It was tragic and hurts badly to this day. Lifting your family up in peace and prayers.

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  50. drunk drivers are the worst of the worst - i hope they sit in prison for eternity!

    prayers go out to you and your family
    xo

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  51. Oh Heather, so sad. The photos of him and the one of him and your SIL, so full of life and love. Thinking of you and sending lots of love.

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  52. Your family's loss is our loss, because it will be repeated again today, and tomorrow... Drunk driving is no accident. Sure,they probably did not set out to kill anyone but everyone knows drinking and driving are extremely dangereous. And many times the intent of drinking is to get drunk. The alcohol industry it too powerful. Peace to your family.

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  53. My heart goes out to you and your family. Such a sad loss . I felt ill when I read your post ,and those beautiful photos made me feel so sad . I wish I had the words to say that would take the hurt away .....but nothing comes to mind . It's just so darn sad . Please know that I'm sending a big hug to your family and his too.

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  54. I am so sorry for your family and sister in law!! What a horrible tragedy... i'll be thinking of and preying for you all.

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  55. oh Heather, I just read your grief today...I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. My prayers are with you and yours. Having lost my own brother in a different, but equally tragic way, I can relate to your loss, and I know the depth of pain. I am so sorry....

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  56. just reading this now...so sorry. that really sucks.

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