Saturday, April 10, 2010

To my darling friends...

Hi kids! Sorry about all my { mama’s drama } yesterday ;) I told Kerri it would take the hand of God to bring me back… and guess I never thought it would come in the form of 150 emails from real friends! But, I’m humbled by your thoughts and concerns… and I ‘m quickly popping on here today to say thanks and that I’ll be emailing everyone of you back ( as long as it takes ) because YOU are the reason Kerri and I make these communities and YOU guys mean a lot to me… you can’t have a community without friendship! Luv ya guys!!

All of your messages sent meant a ton to me and you guys are right… the petty shiz has to stop between our community. I may have no other drive then to make friends and share our craft… and that may mean that I have friends ( not followers! ) but, just because certain people want book deals, sponsorships, and to publish their patterns does not mean that they should treat me or us ( as a community ) as a threat and treat me poorly because of it ( or any of you either! )…

It also means that I’m going to have to make some tough choices to protect myself from the constant pecking by these individuals and that I’m not looking forward to this. I’m not about to get into a { he said… she said… } thing with anyone. I am truly above that type of behavior, since I’m not in high school anymore and now I can honestly say I know my real friends out there in craft land… and they know I’m not what these “certain folks” think I am… so if they get a message saying that they have been removed from one of my communities… and they blog about it be unjust… I guess you’ll then know who has been behind the scene acting in this type of manor.

I just really wanta say thanks to everyone in their support yesterday… I think we all have those moments when you just want to throw in the towel and let the vultures peck at themselves for a while… but that’s not who I really am… and I’m not going to allow them to do that to me or anyone else again! My mama always taught me that the right choice wasn’t always the easiest choice and she was right. I’m standing my ground with my friends… saying enough… is enough ;)

Xo, Heather

56 comments:

  1. Good on you. I'm looking forward to getting to 'know' you better.

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  2. glad to have you back kiddo... and if i still gotta knock some teeth out... i will dude.

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  3. I know this has to be hard and I don't know exactly what you are going through. I guess the quote that there is "opposition in all things" is true. When you have good, you also have bad. I have not started a blog yet but I am amazed that people actually write bad things. There is one blog that I looked at where a girl that had taken a trip with her husband to several nice locations was blasted for it. They told her that her mother (who had started a business and made it grow into a large business I think with candles??) was evil and that the money used to take those trips was not hers. Well, she seems like a really nice person and her response back to them was a good mature response. She mentioned she was her own person and that that "unidentified" person did not know her. She gave a good response. I don't know what I would have done in that situation because I was still in shock that someone "out there" would try to hurt her?? I am amazed at the hate that can be in this world. I am glad for people to have God given talent and they USE it and they share it. Kerri is a nice person too and I'm glad you have a friend close to you in the same business that you can share things with. These are the important people. Thanks for sharing your comments. I'm just getting started making(and hopefully finishing) quilts and I had thought about starting a blog. I appreciate you telling about your experience so I don't go into something blindly. I'm a "blue" persona and we sometimes get our feelings hurt more than others. So, I can be prepared when I actually blog. Stay strong and be the person you truly are (which is amazing!!).

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  4. I am with Julie... two Julies... can't beat us in a fight :)

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  5. Watch out for Julie!

    It makes me sad that there's a lot of crap to put up with. :( I think I would have lost my mind on many an occasion this past year if it weren't for the crafty/quilty/bloggy world!

    Glad you're feeling better! You sure seem like one heckuva lady to me. :)

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  6. Heather- I didn't leave a comment yesterday, but I did on jaybirds, saying I would help kick teeth if need be! You are great at giving us inspiration, and you must know that. Your cathedral windows - hello - who knew it could be so easy!! You rock and your new blog look is supreme!
    Happy weekend!!

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  7. I'm so glad you decided to stick it out. You are too young to be retiring you silly goose!

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  8. I'm glad you decided the best, i'm following you you you invite me for the groups and i was sad with your decision but now it's better.If I can help you in something, please say, I am here. (sorry my english, I hope you understand).

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  9. Hi Heather, I must admit I have only glanced at flickr a few times, but I do so enjoy your blog. This so reminds me of a similiar situation that recently happened in the other blogging world I belong to. My daughter blogs about being a twenty something with Down syndrome as do many moms with younger children with Ds. All of a sudden many of those blogs were being attacked with very hurtful comments by a few cowards. The moms were so crushed by this, and rightly so, they started to go private with their blogs. But that is just what bullies want. I put forth a post asking everyone to go back live to send a message to the few deviant fools that their destructive behavior will not win. It sounds like this is much the same. Every group, no matter the passion, has a few dysfunctional folks lurking in it. Obviously from all the comments yesterday, you have a great thing going and you are so appreciated.

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  10. Yay for you! Glad you are feeling stronger! :)

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  11. Hi Amy~I'm sorry about some of your cyber treatment. I follow you and the Flickr group for inspiration and, like you, have a piece of paper which indicates my graduation from high school. I look to you and many others for creative motivation. I'm also so very thankful (being older than most of the group) for the renewed interest in quilting, crafting and general creativity of the younger members. I'm glad you're back and choosing to take the high road.

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  12. Good for you!!! I have been thinking about you and hoping that you are okay. The flickr quilting community as a whole (and the many communities you started or encouraged on flickr) would not have been the same without your positive spirit!

    Here's a little something to maybe bring you a smile today: We are mamas, or aunties, or grandmas -- or something! Look at what are cross quilts have inspired/encouraged:
    http://mrsschmenkmanquilts.wordpress.com/2010/04/10/i-just-cant-cut-it/ and
    http://lollyquiltz.blogspot.com/2010/04/liberated-cross-blocks.html

    Nice, huh?!?!

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  13. Heather, You obviously have the gift of administration along with all your creative gifts. Use your gifts...that's why you have them! You go girl!!

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  14. Attagirl! Way to come out swinging!

    It's a shame adults can be so petty. Ah well, bad mojo on them and theirs.

    I've only been following for a few posts, but I love what I've seen thus far.

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  15. I am SO GLAD you reconsidered. flckr just wouldn't be the same without you!

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  16. Heather, you are one amazing young woman! Good for you for not letting those bullies get in the way of what you love. It's not always easy to hold your head high and stand your ground around negativity, but you have and that just shows even more what a kind-hearted and compassionate person you are!

    Thank you for being you and for all the time and effort you put into this crafting community. So many of us are better for it!

    Oh, and if you ever want/need help, look me up! I'd be happy to lend you my time! :)

    Hugs!

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  17. I am glad to hear of your decision. I hope you will move forward with a renewed positive attitude. I'm with Cheri, there are people like that everywhere, just ignore them! And if you can't ignore them delete their comments and move on. Glad you are back kiddo!!

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  18. just catching up on my blog posts. sorry to hear there has been drama, but am glad to hear it didn't get you down for long!

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  19. SOOOO good to hear. I still don't understand how anything that you do could harm a book deal, or pattern sales - but what do I know?

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  20. Yippee WOOHOO! ;-) So thrilled you reconsidered!

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  21. You Go Girl!!!!
    I didn't comment yesterday...I was a little in shock. I thought my little virtual crafty bloggy world was above this... I am so naive. Grumps are everywhere. You inspire!!! That is a gift I so appreciate!! And need,
    Thanks for all you do!!

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  22. I will stand by you! I hate when people let jealousy and envy push them to act nasty. I celebrate your creativity and contributions to our crafting / blogging community, so I am proud of you and proud to be your crafting friend.

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  23. I'm so glad you are back. I was just getting to know you and your talents! Your flickr accounts and your quilting talent make us all better and more creative. Stay with us....you are leading more people into this crazy quilting and crafty world.
    Look to the good and you'll find good-ignore the rest, my mom used to tell me. Hard but true.

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  24. I'm really glad to hear it Heather!

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  25. I'm glad to hear this too. I think it's the perfect way for you to handle it. The high road, you know?

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  26. Above all I am happy for you. Your light is shining. Enjoy what you do and the people who share your passions. Good things will follow. God Bless.

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  27. I'm so happy to read this, i love looking at your stuff and your groups on flickr. I was so sad to read that you were leaving.

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  28. Hey there
    I'm a bit late to this but just wanted to chime in that I'm glad you're not pulling the club on your flickr fun - you're a very fun part of my own flickr experience. I don't know exactly what you're going through but I'm glad you're going to be here for your friends who enjoy you oh so much!
    - donna (From Kindred Crafters!)
    xx

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  29. I just want to let you know that I have been following your blog for a long time and I have always been inspired by all your wonderful projects. I'm so sad that you are being treated this way. I don't always comment, but I love the projects you share and the inspiration you give. I would not be progressing and loving my sewing, without all the inspiration from bloggers like you! I just want to say thank you for everything you share! I support you! We need to lift each other up in this community, not put each other down. Life is hard enough, without adding that to it. Take care and know that there are a lot of us out there that support you!

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  30. So happy to hear this Heather! You really do connect us by opening a lot of new things to the crafty/quilt world on here and your enthusiasm is quite contagious! It wouldn't be the same without you! =D

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  31. don't bother emailing me back..you've got creating to do!

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  32. I'm so glad you are doing better today! I didn't witness the mess you have been through but I can imagine because I know how petty and competitive people can be when it comes to quilting, fabric, etc. I sure hope the friendly support outweighs the negative.

    Jennifer :)

    PS I love the music on your blog! Sometimes I come here just to hear a good song...

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  33. Whoa. That sounds like a lot of crappy stuff to deal with. Sorry you've been having a rough time. I'm not part of the flickr community so I'm not sure what exactly you've been going thru, but I know that people can sure suck sometimes. But it sounds like you have great friends so I'm sure you'll be just fine.

    Thanks for the inspiration via your blog & for that great cathedral window tutorial. It's really brilliant & I can't wait to give it a go.

    Take care,

    Angelina

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  34. Glad you are back. :) I agree, just remove the peeps, block them, and move on. They can seek their sponsorship, book deals, or whatever they are after, alone.

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  35. Yay!!! Good on you Heather, I'm glad you decided to hang in there on flickr. Block the meanies and the rest of us can go on enjoying ourselves and sharing our love of all things crafty; as well as books and movies.
    Keep standing tall - that's what bullies are afraid of!
    Hugs
    Kelly :-)

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  36. Hello,
    I'm going to tell you something that I tell my own children when others with ill will get to them. "Just keep moving forward." You are such a creative, talented young women. Please don't let negativity in, it's such a joy killer. Your blog and your work is just so darn inspirational. Don't let anything get in the way of your beautiful work.

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  37. Soooo glad you heard from the many standing with you, instead of the few who want to step on you.

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  38. Good on you, Hold your head high and keep smiling!
    xxx

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  39. Yay Heather! I'm so glad that you decided to reconsider! What would we do without your pretty face welcoming us to each group in the little admin message? Keep up the fight darling; all of us here are your friends!

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  40. Heather, so glad you are reconsidering. You have a lot of support out here. And glad you are taking the high road. We have a certain situation personally where we try to consistently take the high road. I often say that I've taken the high road so often that I'm feeling oxygen-deprived. But it's totally worth it and you know that you can sleep well at night.

    Yay. Glad you are back!!

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  41. Heather, sometimes it is the hardest to not hear the negative crap that a few spew. Mainly because they are the whiniest and the complainers usually are the loudest. However, know that you do a wonderful job in your activities in Flickr. I have followed you into groups made pillows and blocks right along side of you and you never were mean spirited or anything other than supportive. Block them and get them out of your life. Life is too short to let them bring you down to their level. I consider you a friend and I would punch them for you too ; )

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  42. I'm very glad you're sticking around (I'm reading these posts in reverse, so my last comment was that I was sorry you're having a hard time). I do wish you luck and hope you don't let the people with bad attitudes bring you down. Too bad for them that they have to be such jerks.

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  43. Stay strong! There are lots of us out here that appreciate you and your blog. Sometimes my belief in karma is what gets me through the day when others throw the mean-ness my way.

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  44. Hi Heather:))
    I come from holiday and what I find ??....... my friend Heather withdrew from Flickr ...... CAN NOT BE!
    then, dear what happened?
    I've seen that you have reviewed your position. fortunately! we would be sorry to miss you!
    even though it will continue here!
    it was some comment from someone or some action, not worth the hassle, my friend, just block her or him on flickr and he leaves soon bored. Not worth the headache, the best thing is to ignore, baby!
    thankfully still with us! a huge kiss, my dear friend!

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  45. You know, I always get excited to receive a new swap/Flickr group invite from you and Kerri because I know it's going to be a fun group full of inspiration. You are a ray of sunshine for most of us blogger/quilters and we love you just as you are!

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  46. OH God! I go without internet for the weekend to see my FAVORITE blog in turmoil.. MY hope is that you will stay on, you are loved by so many and that is important. You are a great inspiration and any negative, in my opinion would be jealousy!! God bless you and hope you never leave... :)

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  47. So glad to hear this, Heather! I didn't have time to respond before heading out of town, but I was so disappointed to read last week of all of the ugliness you have been experiencing. I am new to all of your flickr communities and so far have felt very welcomed by you and everyone I have so far come into contact with. What a shame that some have chosen to spoil the fun and act like a bunch of petty teenagers. The hand of God does work in mighty ways :) and you are very blessed to have such a community of friends to encourage and support you!

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  48. YOU GO GIRL!!! I'm glad you're not letting the @(&%#& people in the world affect you enough to leave. I think that the positive will out weight the negative, and our community will only grow stronger for it!

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  49. Hey Heather--I've been out of town for Spring Break, got home and of course hop on Flickr to see what is new, and I could not believe what I was reading!
    I just wanted to let you know I am so sorry for what you have been going through. I am a member of many of your Flickr groups, and love them. I love your blog and see the good you accomplish. Thanks for what you do and being you!

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  50. Oh Heather! I am so sorry about what happened. Although I don't really know WHAT it was or WHO said it....I feel for ya sister. People can be really really mean and that makes me so sad. You are an awesome, inspiring lady and I love all your little groups. The books and softies and pillow swap...you are brilliant and I will join your posse anytime you need to round one up. Just hollar for me to mount up and I will be there with my needle and thread in hand.

    xo,
    Tia

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  51. Just read these two posts, sorry to her that you've had trouble! I think sometimes people act differently through the internet than they would face-to-face because they can hide behind their computer :(

    Glad to hear you're feeling better!

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